“Generational Curses Can Sometimes Be Behavioural Patterns That Must Be Broken” — Pastor Bunmi George

Pastor and wellness entrepreneur Bunmi George has said that what people often describe as generational curses can sometimes be behavioural patterns passed down and repeated within families.

Speaking on The Shining Light Show, George explained that people can unknowingly adopt behaviours they observe in their parents and grandparents, eventually repeating the same patterns in their own relationships and lives.

“Did you know that sometimes these generational curses that we talk about, they’re actually behaviours?” she asked.

Using marriage as an example, she described how patterns of dominance, divorce and strained relationships could be repeated across generations when individuals grow up seeing them as normal.

George said such patterns can continue even when a person consciously decides not to repeat the behaviour of a parent.

“You too, what do you mean? You can’t talk to me like that. It’s a behavioural pattern that you must, as a woman or a man, say this happened to my father. This happened to my grandfather. This happened to my great-grandfather. Now it’s happening to me,” she said.

She also gave the example of a man who treats his wife in the same way his father treated his mother despite previously promising himself that he would do things differently.

“I’m treating my wife the way my father treated my mother. Even though I vowed that I’m going to treat my wife better,” she said.

George stressed that making a personal vow is not necessarily enough to change deeply rooted behaviours, noting that individuals must actively replace unhealthy patterns with healthier ones.

“But it’s not only about vowing. You must replace it with something higher,” she added.

The pastor encouraged people to seek God through prayer, learn from the example of Jesus and work towards genuine changes in their hearts and behaviour.

She also advised people dealing with deeply rooted behavioural patterns to seek professional support.

“People like that might need therapy. Go and get professional help,” George said.

She further urged couples experiencing difficulties to show each other grace and compassion while working together to protect their marriages.

According to George, recognising unhealthy patterns and deliberately working to change them can help individuals avoid repeating behaviours that have affected previous generations.